A reflection on the importance of tuning into our bodies and emotions for true healing, through a personal experience of allowing feelings to surface and the growth that comes from this process.

(are we really showing up for our friends?)

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Photo: Quattro Chiacchiere, Renato Maffei

(and why we insist on ignoring reality)

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I have a friend who’s holding on to a relationship that, for quite some time now, has brought her more pain than pleasure — because “he has potential.”

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Artwork: Jeanine Brito

Sometimes we confuse feeling anxious with falling in love. In such moments, we replace the real tragedy of our lives—the pain that we need to face if we want to heal, grow, and have healthy relationships—with drama. And drama is seductive, because the anxiety of highs and lows occupies us and gives us a reason to avoid facing our own existential anguish.